Reality by observation

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We like to believe reality is objective. That truth is fixed. That what is, simply is, and the deeper we go into awareness, psychological, philosophical, and even quantum, the more we encounter a strange paradox:
Reality is not just experienced. It is shaped by the way we observe it.
Where we place our focus, the stories we attach to what we see, and the emotions we project all subtly construct our version of “truth.” Not everything we observe is real. Sometimes, our perception makes it real.

The observer effect (in life, not just science):

In quantum physics, the act of observing changes the behavior of particles. The watcher alters the watch.

In psychology, the same principle applies.
When we focus on failure, we begin to see failure.
When we anticipate rejection, we find evidence to confirm it.
When we believe life is abundant, we start noticing possibilities everywhere.

It’s not magic, it’s neurobiology and narrative.
Our beliefs filter our reality.

We do not see the world as it is.
We see it as we are.

Self-observation: A double-edged mirror:

The most profound reality we shape through observation is our self.
When we watch ourselves with judgment, we shrink.
When we watch ourselves with curiosity, we expand.

Internal narratives like “I’m not good enough,” “I always mess things up,” or “I’m not like others” begin as thoughts, and over time, solidify into perceived truth.
Not because they are true.
But because we observed them in truth through repetition.

To change your life, sometimes you don’t need to change the world,  you need to change the lens through which you are watching it.

Turning awareness into empowerment:

Awareness isn’t passive. It is creative.
And when we recognize our role as the observer, we gain back authorship over how we interpret, engage, and ultimately shape our world.

You can ask:

  • What reality am I reinforcing through my attention?

  • What unconscious beliefs am I projecting onto others or situations?

  • Am I witnessing myself with compassion or criticism?

  • What would shift if I observed through the lens of love instead of fear?

Reflection:

  • What version of reality have I constructed by habit, and does it still serve me?

  • When did I last question a “truth” I’ve carried for years?

  • What if my perception isn’t wrong, just incomplete?

  • How would I move differently if I trusted that my observation influences the outcome?

Reality by observation invites us into radical responsibility.
Not to control everything, but to participate in how meaning is made.
To shift from unconscious reactors to conscious creators.
To witness, with clarity and presence, the infinite ways we are shaping what we see.

Your attention is power.
Where you place it… becomes your life.

If this resonated with you, you might love a free short course worksheet, please email me for a list of topics to choose from, thank you. 

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